Young, Free and Sober

15 Nov

It always strikes me I’m lucky to be going through this sobriety challenge without some of the pressures other women in the blogosphere have- husbands and houses and kids to look after. Real adult responsibilities. The flip slide of this is that I’m a 20 something year old in a big city and a boozy industry trying not to isolate myself by giving up booze. I’m going to have to navigate parties, dates, gigs, pubs, all the things I don’t want to miss out on while I’m young and have the opportunity to enjoy myself. It’s a tightrope I’m learning to walk.

Last night I navigated my first Thursday night on this new round of sobriety. Thursday night is probably the biggest trigger night of the week for me. I’m tired of the week at work, don’t have any exercise commitments (or am too tired from training earlier in the week) and start getting a bit of a ‘Friday feeling’ early. ‘Thursday is the new Friday’ has become a bit of a thing in the circles I move in and casual drinks can sometimes (often) turn into monumental hangovers.

Yesterday I got the ‘Thursday is the new Friday’ feeling really intensely at about 5pm and formed an action plan. I left work, got some delicious food, some tonic water ice and lime, came home and put the stereo on loud, poured my drink and danced round as I cooked. As soon as I ate, the desire to drink alcohol diminished and I set about getting ready really calm and happy, putting my gladrags on and enjoying myself.

I then went out to the bar with friends as planned, had a couple of lime and sodas, a good time and woke up at 6:45am to do all my weekend chores before work. Getting Shit Done in action.

It made me so glad not to have drunk when I contemplated the alternative course of events last night.

5pm- Email round the office seeing if anyone wants a drink.

6pm- Quick pint (or two) at the pub

7pm- Dash home and buy a bottle of wine on the way home, or some tins of gin.

7:30pm- Drink half a bottle of wine whilst getting ready, or 2 strong gin and tonics

8:30pm- Head to bar and have 2-3 glasses of red wine

11pm- Home to a potential food binge and the rest of the bottle.

And it wouldn’t have been worth it at all. Is it ever really worth it?


3 Responses to “Young, Free and Sober”

  1. carrieonsober November 15, 2013 at 6:53 pm #

    You did it, you nailed Thursday! Next Thursday will be a breeze 😉
    Happy Friday, have a fab sober weekend!

  2. readingcreature November 16, 2013 at 9:52 am #

    Hi! So pleased you are sounding so positive and finding coping strategies. Sorry i’ve been a bit missing in action: dissertation deadline was upon me. Would love to meet up again – shall we put out the call generally for Londoners or stick with who we know?

    • FitFatFood November 17, 2013 at 10:09 pm #

      Thank you- I’m actually meeting Carrie on Thursday, would you fancy joining? If so, email Carrie (I think her address is ) and come say hello to drink nice coffee and as Carrie put it “have cake for dinner” 🙂

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