1 month

10 Dec

Today I’m 30 days sober.

I honestly never thought I could get to this point, but with some hard work, bloody mindedness and amazing support, I’ve got here and feel I can just keep on going.

It makes SENSE for me to be sober now- I get so much pleasure from it (most of the time), socialise better, respect and trust myself more and have more fun.

Last night was my work Christmas party which I’ve been dreading. I work in a boozy industry with boozy colleagues and was terrified of how I might be pressured to drink, so had all my excuses and sneaky tactics to hide the fact I wasn’t drinking ready.

A couple of things I wasn’t expecting happened. Firstly, half my office was ill, which meant the pre-party spirit was subdued, which meant I was in for an easier ride than I expected.

Secondly, I noticed that I was the only person with a non-alcoholic drink in hand, but that people who were drinking had such different behaviour to how I remembered people behaving around me when I was drinking- my drinking seems to have distorted my view of what other people were doing. They were drinking so much less than I thought they were…

What you realise when you stop is the way other people drink, and you can spot the alcoholics (although they may not know it yet) and the normies. I’ll say it again. People drink so much less than you think they do. I can’t believe how I used to knock back glasses of wine faster than the men drinking bottled beer.

I had a few “is this forever?!” moments when I caught the sweet smell of champagne, and decided that I’m not ready to think about forever, but I am ready to accept that right now, this is the best possible thing I could do for myself.

A very happy 30 day milestone for me and a few big challenges navigated.

Happy Tuesday!

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24 Responses to “1 month”

  1. Laura December 10, 2013 at 1:41 pm #

    Congratulations on Day 30. I am so interested in how people are handling the Christmas season as this is my first one sober. We have a party on Saturday night, and I am intrigued by your insight into how “other” people drink. I am sure that I was always the one drinking more then everyone else. I know that because we live in the Bible belt, and a lot of the people don’t drink at all, and never even have to think about it!
    I am also not yet ready to say FOREVER, but I am on Day 11 and I am determined to make 100. We will see what happens then.

  2. losedabooze December 10, 2013 at 1:42 pm #

    Congrats on your 30 days!! I have to agree that the observations we make when we’re not drinking makes us realize that they don’t drink as much as we did. When I tried to give away my free drink tickets, I had many refuse as they said they had their one or two and had to stop as they had to drive home.

  3. primrosep December 10, 2013 at 2:07 pm #

    that is fantastic – well done! Now, you know you never thought you could get to 30 days? Just WATCH yourself get to 60. Then 90, and so on and so on!

  4. Shelbi Lyn Bacon December 10, 2013 at 3:01 pm #

    Congrats!! Hoping I can pull through my work party in a couple weeks as well. You’ve given me hope that it probably won’t be as hard as I think it will be… 🙂

    • FitFatFood December 10, 2013 at 3:07 pm #

      I can almost guarantee it won;t be. But have a plan of what non-alcoholic drink you’ll have and what you’ll say if anyone challenges you…

      • Shelbi Lyn Bacon December 10, 2013 at 3:46 pm #

        I really appreciate the tips! One of my work friends admitted the other day that she has lots of AA tips under her sleeve and has the “perfect” non-alcoholic cocktail (that looks like booze to the untrained eye of course) and is also going to do this thang sober, so I’m glad to have a buddy! That should help 🙂

  5. Jean Craig December 10, 2013 at 4:41 pm #

    Congratulations! Also, great insight to how others drink.

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  6. sobernorman December 10, 2013 at 4:46 pm #

    Remember last week, when you were getting to 30 days?
    Boom! and here you are.
    Congratulations. Well chuffed for you

  7. jenisthesoberist December 10, 2013 at 5:25 pm #

    Right on! Yay for 30 days sober. 🙂 Sounds like you handled worrying about “forever” in a really healthy way. I think for me it got a little easier after 30 days, then a little easier after 60, then quite a bit easier (most of the time) after 90 or 100. xx

    • FitFatFood December 10, 2013 at 8:59 pm #

      So glad to hear that- I had another wobble today but held strong… I hope they die down soon.

      • jenisthesoberist December 10, 2013 at 10:11 pm #

        I think milestones can be triggering, too, since we used to celebrate things by drinking! It’ll pass. Reward yourself with something nice! You deserve it!

  8. momma bee December 10, 2013 at 8:17 pm #

    Woo Hoo 30 days! Feels great doesn’t it? Congrats!

  9. happierlikethis December 10, 2013 at 8:54 pm #

    One month!! One BIG month!!!! Bloody brilliant. Go get another one!! X

  10. Shame Doesn't Define Me December 11, 2013 at 1:56 am #

    Congrats on your big 3-0! how fantastic. I know what you mean when you say others don’t drink like you perceived them to when you are drinking. I had the same experience over Thanksgiving; I dreaded being around my in-laws because they “party so much!” Well, the reality is, i was always the one partying. No one was drunk or even tipsy. I was way off in my “truth.” Keep doing what you’re doing. Each day is great one when you wake up before the alarm and without a hangover. I would have NEVER dreamed I would say that a few short weeks ago.

    • FitFatFood December 11, 2013 at 5:51 pm #

      Just keep doing what we know works 🙂 I love that. Thank you!

  11. Lilly December 11, 2013 at 2:43 am #

    CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!! 30 Days IS HUGE!!!!! I think I have told you it took me a year of trying to get to 30 days and, honestly, I do think it’s a turning point – the next 30 will go much faster and feel much easier. You have gotten enough distance now to get some perspective on how much better you can feel without it and on your drinking behaviour but the best is still up ahead!

    Oh, yes, totally hear you on both these accounts. Firstly, you do see how much less most people actually drink than we used to – even in these supposed big drinking situations – and also the alkies really stick out to you like a sore thumb.

    Carrie said something great to me about how getting through this holiday season will take me to whole new levels in my recovery and therefore contentment and also that it will never be this hard ever again. The same is true for you. If you can get through the rest of this season sober the new year will see a whole new you. She is blossoming before our eyes already!

    Awesome awesome awesome.

    Lots of love to you & happy (sober sparkly) holidays,

    Lilly xo

    • FitFatFood December 11, 2013 at 5:50 pm #

      Thank you Lilly- your support has helped me SO much this month 🙂

  12. risingwoman December 11, 2013 at 8:56 am #

    Congrats on 30 days! You must be so proud of yourself…. 😉

    • FitFatFood December 11, 2013 at 5:51 pm #

      Thank you- it feels pretty damn amazing!

  13. Rebecca A. Watson December 12, 2013 at 3:31 pm #

    Yeeehaw! That is so rad 🙂 And isn’t it crazy how people don’t drink like you thought they did. Just shows that booze will go to any lengths to make you feel like you’re normal. Super happy to hear you got through the party. And for the most part, it just gets easier.

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