Addictive Daughter

5 Jun

I love Addictive Daughter, two twenty-somethings in the UK whose goal is to : ‘lovingly guide you through your Quarter-Life Crisis (& inspire you to create a better life for yourself than you ever dreamed was possible. In other words, we’re here to help you get addicted to the good stuff.’ 

They talk openly about their bad addictive habits that they had to kick (alcohol, drugs, casual sex, shopping) and are great young, fun proponents of living a good sober life. 

Today I am feeling particularly shit. I’ve had a tension headache for 4 days, I’m having a nightmare with my flat buying situation and no-where permanent to live, and my job is stressful.

I clicked on their site this morning to get an injection of loveliness, and there was just what I needed to see, a vlog on celebrating your little achievements of the past 6 months. 

When I look back at mine, I have done ALOT. I have got sober, run a marathon, found my dream job (which obviously I now moan about), have moved flat (albeit into a temporary one), have embedded myself in AA, have been able to stand on my own two feet without therapy and have gone self-employed. 

These are all big things. Why don’t I let myself have them? Why do I focus on the stuff that’s making me feel shitty? 

Yesterday I felt so much stress my chest hurt, like my heart was aching. This is a HUGE warning signal that I need to chill the fuck out. I need to try to accept the things I cannot control that are causing me stress (namely my seemingly doomed flat purchase) and to stay thankful for all the amazing things I do have. 

I’d highly recommend everyone has a little squiz around the Addictive Daughter site, particularly if you can relate to the ‘Quarter life crisis’ idea. To me, being in your twenties and trying to work out who you are and what your place is in the world whilst still having to act as an adult is wayyyyyy harder than puberty. I feel like a child and an adult simultaneously. And when you throw trying to come to terms with being an alcoholic into the mix when everyone else is out living the drinking life, it feels tough.

But I’m here, I’m sober and I’m working on my shit. 

Let’s hope the dark storm turns and I can get back into the Sober Sunny Place I love so much.

 

 

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6 Responses to “Addictive Daughter”

  1. nomorewine June 5, 2014 at 3:28 pm #

    Hey you, great post, defo going to have a little look at the blog you have suggested 🙂 and I’m guilty of the same…..no matter how much progress we make, no matter what we achieve we always seem to dwell on the negatives. I think it’s because we have been so used to treating ourselves badly when drinking, we don’t feel like we deserve to be kind to ourselves and celebrate our achievements. But everything you have done over the last 6 months makes you a super hero!! I can hardly run up the stairs let alone a marathon ha ha! Be proud lady…..:) xxz

  2. Lisa Neumann June 5, 2014 at 9:02 pm #

    It always comes back …. the Sunny Place …. my job is to hold tight through feeling the feelings and be willing to grow a little. I’m here, I’m sober and I’m working on my shit too. Great thoughts for the day. xo

    • FitFatFood June 5, 2014 at 11:38 pm #

      I am definitely willing to hold tight and grow 🙂 thanks Lisa xxx

  3. themiracleisaroundthecorner June 5, 2014 at 10:59 pm #

    Wow, thanks for much for introducing me to Addictive Daughter, I can’t wait to read more. And yes, you’ve done tons. If you can’t see it yourself, take heart that the rest of us can!!!

    • FitFatFood June 6, 2014 at 12:17 am #

      Haha thanks. I can SEE it but I don’t FEEL it. Does that make sense? It will improve I’m sure 🙂

  4. Dragonfly Wanders June 6, 2014 at 3:47 am #

    You’re wiser than you know to be tackling this issue when you’re young! Good for you.

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